In this video we speak to Triambika about how an erection doesn’t necessarily mean good sex. You can still experience (giving and receiving) pleasure with no erection.
It’s totally fine to say to your partner, “I really wish my penis was working properly right now.”
Your partner can support with compassion, “how can I support you?”
Prolong ejaculation by deeper, slower, longer breaths.
Strengthen the PC muscle.
Start using open ended communication during your sex if you are unsure. “Why don’t you show me…?” “How does this feel?”